Sunday, January 15, 2012

Learning to Let Go

Sometimes you just gotta let it go. It takes so much time and energy to hate people and be angry; Remember that half the time you are better off! We go through waves of ups and downs. Girls get emotional and boys can be un-emotional, causing us to be even MORE emotional. Its an ugly circle and just when you think you have escaped it, something pulls you back in and BANG! you are mad about something again.

This time, you should do it different. Stepping back and looking at your big picture, wondering why you are giving this boy/work problem/family beef anymore time, if it is something that you can't fix with anything but time. Recently I have realized that I am in a far better relationship with my Mum because we know to take time, days, to figure out exactly what is pissing us off when there is an issue. I would give someone $100 to tell my 16-year-old self that bit of information.

Mostly, I blame the parents. When men are man-children, I blame their mothers. When family is ridiculous, I remember that everyone's family is a little nuts. But with men, co-workers and friends that are general shit heads, I blame the parents. Can you imagine if a guy that was a shit to you had a mum that knew about it? In my case, I dated a Momma's Boy that was a Golden Boy (but in real life, an unemployed pothead) that cheated on me. A) WTF did your mother teach you? B) WTF would she say if she had ANY idea how you treat women?

I know my mother wouldn't be proud of all the things I have done but we also talk about all the shitty things. She knows I broke up with a dude via text. She was also one of the first people to say, " I told you it would come back to you," when I got dumped via text in my next relationship. Family is there for real talk. Straight up.

What I am getting at is that you need to weigh your options when you're pissed. Happy girls are the prettiest and hanging onto being an angry bitch will give you wrinkles. I am way too young and hot for that. But seriously, I look at my mom and how she has gotten through the things in her life that have sucked. She smiles everyday, loves my Dad even though they are just friends now, and found the ability to allow for that to happen. Life is WAY too short to hang onto the baggage and drag it around, no matter how much you love those purses. It is time to just let it go and move the hell on.

When you are thinking about hating someone, make sure you have the room in those bags for it. If there is room for something great, let that in instead of the angry things that are part of the past. It made you who you are today, but the great things you let in will make you who you are tomorrow.


Andrew Viarruel said...

Very well written and interesting post. As I read this I found myself relating to a number of points you've posted. It is true. Life is far too short to hold grudges. Far too much energy.

Excellent post. I look forward to future posts!

Lindsay Woo said...

Thanks Andrew! It's nice to know someone out there is reading. :) I need to remember this kind of thinking more often.

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